elayna: (Alex as Superman)
[personal profile] elayna
Talking to a friend about pictures and she mentioned that she often deletes ones of herself, as she doesn't like how she looks. Which reminded me of the last holiday I spent with my mother, New Year's Day lunch 2015. I asked her to pose for a picture, and she said no, she didn't like how she looked, and turned her back on me. I took a picture of her back, if nothing else, capturing the purple streak in her hair.

She did let me take a picture later on that day, of her and Dad, so I've got one of her face.

It wasn't the first time she had expressed dissatisfaction with her looks, and it made me sad and frustrated. If we don't get to be happy with how we look at 76 years old, when do we?

I've known other women who refuse to have pictures taken or duck out of the frame. Never men, only women.

If someone who cares for you, loves you, wants to capture that you are part of their lives, and your insecurity is screaming at you that you're not good enough... stomp on that sucker. Hard. And smile for the camera. Accept and appreciate that you are important to others, just as you are.

New Year's Day 2015

Date: 2017-06-02 07:50 pm (UTC)
sally_maria: (Vala age)
From: [personal profile] sally_maria
Thank you - I think that's an important point to make, and so easy to miss.

Date: 2017-06-02 08:38 pm (UTC)
splix: (Default)
From: [personal profile] splix
So well said. <3

Date: 2017-06-04 09:28 pm (UTC)
jenab: (Default)
From: [personal profile] jenab
Thank you for saying this. This is something I needed to hear as I tend to stay out of photographs.

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